Communication-
The Key to a lasting Relationship

Communication, which is a way to become connected one with another as a couple grows. Through communication we share with the other our thoughts, our most deepest thoughts, on how we view life, our dreams, our beliefs and even our deepest love for the other in whom we are taking that time to to discover in which we are looking at spending the rest of the days of our life with.

But, why is it, I must ask, that in the beginning of our relationship, we are so blind and avoid all the other aspects that comes along with each new relationship like commitment.

For some, or even most of us, we set such high standards towards the person we are getting to know if we are willing to grant them to have us in their lives but what do we do it those standards have been met in the beginning but than filters away. Will we still remain in that marriage or use "it as a reason to pull the plug"[1]

H. N. Wright says:

"Commitment requires you to give up the childish dreams of being unconditionally accepted by your partner and expecting that partner to fulfill all your needs and make up for all your childhood disappointments. It means that you learn to accept this and not use it as a reason to pull the plug."[2]

H. N. Wright also says that:

"Commitment means many things to different people. For some, the strength of their commitment varies with how they feel emotionally or physically. The word 'commit' is a verb and means, 'to do or to perform.' It is a binding pledge or promise. It is a private pledge you also make public. It is a pledge carried out to completion, running over any roadblocks. It is a total giving of oneself to another person. Yes, it is risky, but it makes life fulfilling."[3]

Even "Psychology Today" offers some good advise in their October 2004 issue when they say that:

Compatibility does not hinge on some personal inventory or traits. Compatibility isn't something you have. It's something you make. It's a process, one that you negotiate as you go along. Again and again. It's a disposition, an attitude, a willingness to work.[4]

So, although, communication opens up the door towards an everlasting relationship our commitment towards that relationship keeps it alive as well. What if those feelings we so strongly hunger for are not there when bad times happen or what if bad times are not happening and the feelings are just not there during the moment or even worse yet what if all went so well in the beginning of that everlasting growing relationship that than a complication came about which neither of you had any power over controlling it's outcome.

Will you be there for the other?

True love is not just when the moments feel right but when the moments get to their worsens and you are still there and no better way to show that you are still there than by communication which will help keep the flame lit in each and everyone of you.

Footnotes

1. Communication: Key To Your Marriage - H. Norman Wright (page 9)

2. Communication: Key To Your Marriage - H. Norman Wright (page 9)

3. So You're Getting Married: The Keys to Building A Strong, Lasting Relationship - H. Norman Wright (page 9)

4. Psychology Today - October 2004 issue on page 52

Communication: Key to Your Marriage: A Practical Guide to Creating a Happy, Fulfilling Relationship
H. Norman Wright

Paperback - REVISED, July 2000

So You're Getting Married: The Keys to Building a Strong, Lasting Relationship
H. Norman Wright

Paperback, February 1997

"The manner in which we speak is exceedingly important" if ever we are willing to let each other grow.

 

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